Today, and on any given day, we all have only a finite amount of the following things:
- Head space
And, if you spend any of these excessively thinking, doing and reacting to things in the past, you significantly reduce the time, energy and head space that can be utilised to focus on the present and creating an awesome future.
A great idea is to take time to clean out your head space, much like you would clean out your computer if the memory space was full.
Step One: ‘Defrag’ your hard drive. Clear your headspace of:
- Self-doubt: You are worthy of achieving any of the dreams and goals that you have. Believe it.
- Blame: Blame is just an excuse for you not to take responsibility for your own life. Own your life.
- Anger & Jealousy: These serve no purpose, they will only harm you. Let them go.
Get rid of the rubbish that is just sitting there behind the scenes. Whether you realise it or not, this unnecessary build up has a negative affect on your performance and delivery. Do what you need to do to gain closure. Do what you need to do to clear the way to allow you to move on. Do what you need to do to let go of the past. This one step alone will have you move forward significantly faster than before, and with a whole lot more energy and head space.
Step Two: Refresh and reset. Reprogram how you think:
Train your mind to think about what you want in life. Avoid thinking about what you don’t want. Negative thinking only drains your energy and is counterproductive; that’s why fear is so destructive. Yes, I know, you can’t avoid negative thinking entirely. We’re all human and sometimes negative thoughts are just there. Some days are just bad days and that’s okay. The trick is not to get stuck in those thoughts and in those days. The great news is that science shows that your mind can only think one thought at a time, so changing the negative, when it does appear, into a positive actually eliminates the negative.
Step Three: Regular disk clean up. Create new habits:
A simple maintenance program is essential. What can you do daily to maintain your ‘hard drive’ and keep a clear head space?
- Stop procrastinating: It only leaves you frustrated, despondent and playing catch up. Stop putting it off. Just do it!
- Laugh lots: Even if you don’t feel like it. Laugh often. Laugh loud. Laugh with others. Clear away the cobwebs with a good belly laugh. It makes a huge difference.
- Take control: Focus on what you can change, what you can control – your reactions and your attitude. You cannot change others, you cannot control every situation. So stop trying.
With a clearer mind, you can then focus on the positive, not the negative; on the future, not the past. Begin and end each day being grateful for what you have, for all that you experience. Daily revisit your dreams and keep them alive.
Step Four: Daily conversation. Talk about it:
So often we get frustrated about why we think in a certain way or why we have certain behaviours, and we hone in on the negatives of the day. We blame ourselves for all the things that went wrong. Instead, I am suggesting that you ensure daily to look at your day and talk about what’s going on inside you and how you can resolve any situation that arose during the day and how to face new challenges tomorrow. Talk to who? Talk to yourself! In the beginning, this may seem totally crazy and yet, it works! You will start noticing that your mind actually starts working with you on solutions, instead of staying in the ‘blame zone’. Take time out on a daily basis to talk to yourself, reflect on your day, laugh a little at yourself and prepare for the day ahead.
Challenge yourself. Talk to yourself, Clear your head. Re-ignite your energy. Maximise your time.
The answers are all in your head!
Don’t know where to start? Stuck in a rut? Overwhelmed with everything you want to/need to do? Book a 20-minute discovery session with me to see how I can help you clear some head space and have you focus on creating the business and lifestyle you desire. Book a discovery session here and join my Facebook group Quantum Leap for Women