LIVING THE DREAM
If there’s one thing I hate about putting it out there to people to live their dreams, it’s the idea that you can only live your dream if you jump out of airplanes, travel to exotic places or go totally off the grid and live an unconventional life. Everywhere on social media, you’ll see people sharing their fabulous photos, the glamours and riches and high adventure stories, telling us that we have to challenge authority, fight the status quo, and blaze our own trails to be truly “living the dream”.
And I totally get that. Hell, that’s totally what I love to do! Challenging the status quo, pushing my own limits and boundaries, feeling the fear and braving it anyway! And guess what? Thats MY dream. That’s a way of life that I am passionate about. And not everyone has the same dream as me. Not everyone wants to challenge the status quo. Not everyone wants to push boundaries. And that’s ok! You shouldn’t have to adopt someone else’s dream. I genuinely enjoy helping others to open up the world to have them live THEIR dreams.
And, if you’re just going through the motions – going to university because that’s just what everyone does, getting a job because you have to, getting married because you’re at a certain age, having babies because that’s the next step in life (apparently!) – then no, you’re not living your dreams either. If you’re living a life according to someone else’s plan, if you’re living your life to “fit in”, you’re actually moving further and further away from your own dreams. And yes, for some people, going to university, getting married or having children IS their dream.
This is what I am passionate about, having the choice to live life the way that YOU want to. Because the beautiful thing about life is that you have a choice. You don’t have to settle for a life that you don’t want just because you have to or think you have to. The truth is, we all like some kind of stability, the norm of a routine to a certain degree. We enjoy knowing where we’ll sleep at night and that we will have the ability to provide well for our family. It’s totally ok to want normal, security and stability.
The key is that whatever level of normal, security and stability you have in your life, is a level that you are comfortable with and that you have chosen for yourself. A dream of having a picket fence and three bedroom home is no less valid than a dream of quitting a nine to five job to become a yoga instructor! No one should ever be left feeling that their dreams are any less than others because their dreams may be more conventional or ‘normal’. Life doesn’t have to be glamorous, revolutionary or dramatic.
And if, as a coach or one that helps people find their way, you believe that people are not living their dreams until they sell everything, go off the grid, and challenge the status quo then, from my perspective, you are sadly mistaken. If this is your one model for living your dreams, you may be part of the problem, leading others to align their lives with the model of success that suits you irrespective of whether it suits them or not. Who says that people who are running off travelling the world are the only ones “following their dreams”?!
So when it comes to your dreams, remember, there is no “one size fits all” solution. When it comes to your dreams, only you get to decide what’s right for you! And you shouldn’t be told that you’re thinking too small if your truest dream just happens to involves a conventional path. As a coach who has worked with dozens of people to help them to achieve their dreams, I will always show you other options that you may not be aware of. I’ll get you to think way outside the box of what you may normally limit yourself to and I’ll challenge you to see if fear or anything else is inhibiting your ability to dream. And ultimately it’s up to YOU to choose what it is that you want, to forge your own path, to live your own dreams.
So the message here today is that we are all entitled to our own dreams! We don’t have to subscribe to the dreams of others. And our dreams can change with time! There is no right way to dream, there is no hard and fast rule about what you can and should want in your life. And no dream is ever going to fit you if it belongs to someone else!
Take the time and give yourself permission to dream. Dream your dreams. Get clear on what it is that you really want
- Commit to your dream 100%. No excuses
- Believe in yourself 100%. Be your own biggest fan.
- Make your dream happen. Plan it out, work for it, sweat for it.
Take the time to make sure that it’s your dream and then get out there and make it happen. And most important of all, never forget that THE CHOICE IS YOURS!
Want help to create your dream and/or make change happen? Book a 20-minute discovery session with me to see how I can help you build your confidence, create change and begin living your dream.