Making the commitment to pursue major change in most cases, sends seismic waves through our lives. Immediately fears appear almost everywhere we look (inside and out), some real, some imaginary. Often before we even take our first real step towards change we begin to respond to the fear and panic. We interpret the unknown, the fear and the “chaos” that follows as signs that we should stop, retreat or put it on hold. Does this sound familiar? Think, how often have you heard yourself say things like:
- “I can’t deal with THAT now”
- “I have to finish THIS first”
- “Why did this have to happen NOW, just when I was focusing on THAT?”
- “Maybe THIS is a sign that I’ve made the WRONG choice!”
We begin to beat ourselves up, blaming ourselves up for the “chaos” that begins to occur in our lives, all because we wanted something different! We start to over-analyze, over-think, bringing on the fear and panic as the “chaos” unbalances our comfort zone and we default to the comfortable, to the known, to the safe.
And here’s the truth – IF you want to be successful. IF you want to create your own business. IF you want to be happier. IF you want to get rich. IF you want to create the life you desire. IF you want to be the best person you can be. Chaos will be part of your journey. With change comes chaos!
I used to believe that chaos was a sign that I was on the wrong path, that everything was going terribly wrong. I would fight to retain comfort and stability. I have now learnt that it is simply part of the process and proof that I’m growing, I am learning, I am changing. I can now say that I even enjoy the chaos caused by change. Frustrating and confusing – yes! Challenging – yes! Crazy – yes! Exciting – totally!
Do you really think China was in my original life plan, or even in my revised five year strategy? No way it was London or New York all the way baby! Yet, here we are, with no real idea of where this path is really going to take us as we journey through our adventure. What I do know is that having made the change, it’s now hard to imagine what we would be doing and how our lives would be if we had simply kept doing what we did, totally oblivious to this vibrant culture and lifestyle, safe in our comfort zone.
Chaos is the uncertainty sparked by uncharted territory. Chaos balances order and it’s your free will and choice that spark the chaos. So, it’s up to you to make the choice to be okay with both the chaos and the comfort. Learning to live with chaos ultimately prepares you for living with difficulties and uncertainty.
Chaos teaches you that it’s ok if you don’t need to have everything figured out. It’s just your little monkey mind that wants to know every single thing, how it’s going to turn out, and have everything in order and in control. It’s just fear, and it’s okay. It’s a state of your mind, one that you can change by telling it that it’s okay, this is a good thing, everything will turn out. Then keep on going. Crazy stuff may happen, take a deep breath and keep going because you’re heading in the right direction and you’re going to get them if you don’t give up because of the chaos created.
The fact is that when it comes to taking risks and creating change, there’s simply no guarantee of being right all the time or of having everything go just perfectly, no matter how much research and study you have done, no matter how prepared you are.
So, what kind of chaos are you in the midst of right now?
Can you see the flicker at the end of the tunnel? The clarity that will come from chaos?
Or will you give in to the fear, panic and uncertainty? Are you looking for comfortable change only?
It’s a choice that only you can make.
And, I’d love to hear your stories of order out of chaos, growth and change. You never know how your experiences can have a remarkable impact on others.
Are you ready to take a chance, embrace the chaos and create change. Book a 20-minute discovery session with me to see how I can help you build your confidence, create change and begin living the life you desire. Book a discovery session here and join my Facebook group Quantum Leap for Women
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