What Do You Want To Achieve?
What do I want to achieve? Do you have a tendency to react, to say things that you later regret. I often do, well used to, and still do when I don’t have my ego in check. So before reacting, I want to give you a challenge today, read on and learn the one question that could totally change your life, the way I deal with situations, as it did mine!
In any given situation this one question can have you:
- Take control.
- Create your actions.
- Become accountable for your choices.
That one question – what do I want to achieve here? Yep, just a small question, that I now live by and have shared with many others. It has on numerous occasions helped me to stop, take control of my reactions and realise that I myself am accountable for my actions or lack of. Learning this question or more importantly learning how to use this question was a defining lightbulb moment for me.
I know that we can all relate to reacting to an event because it screams out for us to do just that, REACT and, just because an event is a catalyst to reactions, it doesn’t mean it determines our actions. So instead of reacting to a situation with another, whether it be at work or at home, with a colleague, your partner or your children, focus on the outcome you desire, stop, take control of yourself, your words and your actions and make it happen. Simple? Yes! Easy? No! Why? Because it will ultimately mean giving up on things like:
- Your desire to be right (can be so important to us and, does it really matter)
- Your inner urge to argue (some times just for the hell of it, to get it out of your system)
- Your innate feelings of indignation (when things are unfair, emotions run deep, and often that’s just life)
- Your deep craving for retribution and payback (part of being human)
All seemingly “natural” reactions to events and …. if you want to achieve your desired outcome you will most likely have to let ’em go. Because in most cases, our desired outcome is not to argue or to prove our point, most of the time, our desired outcome is to create a resolution, to maintain a relationship and come out less scared than when we went in to a situation, still on target to achieve our goals.
Asking that one simple question – what do I want to achieve from this situation, creates a simple shift in focus. It immediately changes the direction of your thinking and your communication and no matter how the other person reacts it moves you from a state of arguing towards a focused state based on what you actually want to achieve in that moment. By focusing on the results you are committed to, you will find yourself consistently moving towards the result you are after and you know what? It feels good! Why? Because you feel like you’ve accomplished something, not simply going round and round in circles. You feel like you’re taking a step forward and not backwards.
The result is the target you are after (or at least a step closer in the right direction. So, are you clear on the results you want in your career, your business, your relationships and your life? Get clear! Then in any situation ask yourself:
1) What do I really want?
2) What is the outcome I am after?
3) What is the specific result I’m committed to achieve?
Believe me, you will totally notice the difference.
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